Blog
If you’re trying to make sense of something, like anxiety that won’t settle, a relationship that keeps circling the same argument, or a past that still shows up in the present, this is a place to start. We’re two counsellors in Langley, BC, and we write here about the things that come up most often in our work: trauma, anxiety and depression, grief, burnout, and what happens between partners. We try to write the way we’d talk with you in the office: plainly, from what we’ve learned over years of sitting with people and what the research supports. Read what’s useful, and reach out when you’re ready.
What Is Complicated Grief?
Grief after a death is rarely tidy. For most people, the rawest pain softens over the months that follow. That isn’t because the person matters...
How to Communicate Boundaries
Most people don’t struggle to work out what their boundaries are. They struggle to say them. You know you need to stop taking work calls after...
Rumination: Why Your Mind Won’t Let It Go (and How to Interrupt the Loop)
It’s 2am. The conversation from Tuesday is playing again, except now you’re saying the thing you should have said, and it’s still not enough. You’ve...
Your Inner Critic Isn’t Your Enemy: An IFS Way of Working With It
You know the voice. You send an email and it says you sounded stupid. You make a mistake at work and it's on you before anyone else has noticed. You...
Adult ADHD: When Focus and Follow-Through Have Always Been a Struggle
ADHD is often talked about as a childhood condition, something that shows up in report cards and parent-teacher meetings. But...





