Grief & Loss Counselling
Grief Doesn’t Follow a Timeline
Grief touches every part of life — the loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, a major life transition, or even the loss of health, identity, or future plans you once counted on. However grief shows up for you, there’s no “right” way to move through it, and no timeline you’re supposed to follow.
At Vista Counselling, we provide a compassionate, judgment-free space to process loss at your own pace, whether you’re grieving a recent death, an anniversary that’s resurfacing old pain, or a loss that happened years ago but never fully resolved.
Vista Counselling provides grief and loss counselling in Langley, BC — in person at our Langley office or online across BC — for bereavement, separation, anticipatory grief, and the losses that don’t always get named as grief.
Grief counselling isn’t about “getting over” loss — it’s about learning to carry it differently.
Common Experiences of Grief
Grief can show up as more than sadness. People often experience:
- Waves of intense emotion alternating with numbness
- Guilt, anger, or relief — sometimes all at once
- Difficulty concentrating, sleeping, or returning to daily routines
- A sense of disconnection from others who haven’t shared the loss
- Physical exhaustion or unexplained aches and pains
- Complicated grief, where the loss feels “stuck” and doesn’t ease with time
Grief can also carry you somewhere darker. If it ever tips into thoughts of not wanting to be here, that deserves immediate support, not a waiting list: call or text 9-8-8 (Canada’s suicide crisis helpline) or call 310-6789 (BC’s mental health line, no area code needed) — both free, any time of day.
How We Support You Through Grief
We’ll work together to:
- Create space to process emotions you may not have been able to express elsewhere
- Understand and work through complicated or prolonged grief
- Navigate grief alongside other life stresses (family conflict, financial pressure, caregiving)
- Rebuild a sense of meaning and connection after loss
There’s no one-size-fits-all process here. Depending on what you need, we may draw on AEDP, which helps you process emotions that have been too big to feel alone; Internal Family Systems (IFS), for the parts of you in conflict about the loss — the part that wants to move forward and the part that feels moving forward would be a betrayal; or narrative approaches that help you carry the story of who and what you’ve lost. Where a loss was sudden or traumatic, we may recommend EMDR — grief and traumatic loss respond differently, and it helps to treat them differently.
Who You’ll Work With
Both of our counsellors work with grief and loss.
Dr. Kevin Klassen, PsyD
Has practised in Langley since 2009 and works extensively with grief that is tangled with trauma.
Roshni Vedamanikam, MA, MSW
A Registered Clinical Counsellor since 2003, she brings an integrative style that includes narrative therapy — often a natural fit for grief work.
Your First Session
There’s nothing you need to prepare. Some people come ready to talk about the loss; others spend the first session talking around it, and that’s fine — grief sets its own pace and we follow yours. We’ll ask what happened, what the weeks since have been like, and what support you do and don’t have. If it helps to bring photos, or to say nothing at all for a while, both are welcome.
FAQs
Is it normal to still be grieving years later?
What’s the difference between grief counselling and general counselling?
Can counselling help with anticipatory grief (grieving before a loss happens)?
Do you offer grief counselling online?
Yes, we offer secure online sessions for clients throughout British Columbia.
What does a session cost?
Sessions are 50 minutes. The fee is $200 per session with Dr. Kevin Klassen and $165 per session with Roshni Vedamanikam. Many extended health plans cover counselling with a Registered Clinical Counsellor — it’s worth confirming your coverage before your first session. Full details, including our cancellation policy, are on our FAQ page.
If you or a loved one is struggling with issues of grief and loss and are wanting extra support, or are wondering if it would be helpful to come in, please feel free to contact us, or book an appointment online.